A Counselor Speaks on the Topic of Homosexuality

By: Bev S

With a short break in the middle when I taught adults, I taught junior high girls for 14 years.  Over that period of time as youth teacher, I approached the subject of sexual purity carefully, so I wouldn’t step into the rights of the parent to teach the exact nature of purity. I did approach it Biblically and thoroughly.  In the last 3-4 years of teaching youth, my girls began to approach me with the topics of interracial marriage and homosexuality.  Both are hard topics.  The first I had to bounce right back to parents—whether or not the Bible says interracial marriage is okay was not where I went—I focused on obeying God by obeying their parents.  But homosexuality—I hit head on.

The girls were confused by this kind of worldly message on homosexuality:  “The evidence for a gay gene is increasing.”[1] Now, 8 years after I taught my last Sunday School class in the states, the media continues to bombard our youth, and indeed each one of us, with the message that it is right and okay for a person to be homosexual.  For example, one day my husband and I asked dear friends and family what TV shows they were enjoying and one of the recommendations from someone we respect was, “Ugly Betty.”  We bought it, began to watch it, and did watch every episode of the first season; however we were troubled when a teen age boy who was definitely “effeminate” was encouraged by his single mom to “be whoever he was created to be.”  It seemed to Parker and me that he was encouraged to be homosexual just because he was more feminine in his gestures and interests.  The subtle reality of American pop culture and how it corrupts our thoughts and values was driven home to us by this show.  (Another character had a sex change operation). We have not purchased any more of the seasons, just because of the heavy emphasis on homosexuality as being an option to all as a lifestyle.  In defense of the show, it did portray the great sorrow of the choices of the homosexual characters—all three of them struggled deeply with their choices and it wasn’t all happiness and sunshine.  Their life choices were difficult.

When my junior high girls asked about homosexuality as an optional life style, I turned to the Old Testament and shared Leviticus 18 with them. Then we talked about each command and we all agreed, God wants us to be pure and not have sex with anyone before marriage. The girls had no problem agreeing that incest was a perversion; the girls agreed that sex with animals was a perversion; they heartily agreed that adultery is a sin; so then I asked them, “What about Lev. 18:22?  If you agree that all these other commands of God are right and true, why do we throw this one out?”  I think that was the most convincing argument I ever made with my junior high girls—and it was just letting God’s Word powerfully speak to them. There are New Testament Scriptures that support God’s laws on sexual relationships:  Matthew 18:17-20 (Jesus speaking); Romans 1: 26-27; 1 Corinthians 5:1-5; 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, 12-13, 18; Galatians 5:19-21; Ephesians 5:3-7; Jude 4-7.

I made a grave mistake when my own children were teenagers.  We did talk about sexual purity—we discussed the consequences of sex before marriage—sexual diseases and pregnancy.  But I never sat with my children and discussed homosexuality—it never occurred to me that this could be a choice one of my children might make and praise God, none of them have.  But in recent years I have sat with three different sets of parents whose dear children have chosen the homosexual lifestyle—one young woman whom we have known from the day she was born—is now Michael and has undergone the double mastectomy with additional surgeries facing him in the near future.  My heart is torn with grief for these families.

And so, my dear friends, I encourage you to include God’s commands about all kinds of sexual behaviors when your children are old enough to handle the subject.  All children are different–but two children that I, myself, heard their own grief stories, were 14 when they had their first same-sex experience and both happened with adults at church who exploited the children’s vulnerability in the area of sexual orientation.

In Bertrand William’s 1953 book, Mr. Williams was not afraid to take on the subject of homosexuality.  He gives this advice to Christian boys:

Some alley cat …wants to initiate you into some wild all-boy group or a crowd where boy-meets-girl.  There are these knowing kinds who pick up their morals from older men and girls down on the street corner or in the dance hall.  They pose as being wise and already initiated into the wonders of this evil way.

They are merely opening the gates of hell for you.  There are boys who practice the sex act with other boys and when they become men they continue their dirty deeds. ..Doctors tell us that once boys begin to practice the sex act with other boys they never fully recover from the desire, and when they marry they are unable to offer to their wives the urges which God intended to consummate this union of man and woman in bringing children into the world.[2]

Dear parents, please include homosexual education in your sex talks with your teenage children.  God included it in His commands to us—and now we have all the medical evidence about AIDS/HIV, sexual diseases (some of them are not curable with antibiotics and leave lasting effects on the body) that God protected us from with all His laws in Leviticus 18.

Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things

God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient.”  Ephesians 5:6

[1] “Thanks, Mum,” The Economist, 4 November 1995, 87.

[2] Williams, Bertrand.  Christian Boy’s Problems (1953), pp. 32-33

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