A Counselor Speaks on Children, Teens, and Pornography

By: Bev S


“As followers of the Word trying to insure a safe and secure home for our child, the right to internet privacy by a child or teen has absolutely no place in today’s world.”

In Texas there is an agency called Child Protective Services, CPS.  That is the government agency that tries to insure the safety and well being of Texas children.  Unfortunately, as a public school counselor in a difficult place, sometimes I had to refer children to this agency.  The agency workers have a hard job and usually try to help the parents become aware of their responsibilities and fulfill their responsibilities to their children.

The Word of God calls us, as parents and grandparents, aunts and uncles, to protect our children from the assaults of the enemy.  As you know, he is already actively at work, “seeking whom he may devour (1 Peter 5:8)” Satan has no scruples—he begins trying to devour our children when they are at a very early age.  We must put a hedge of protection around them in every area of their life that we can.

My husband and I, beginning with this issue, will present to you a series of articles about pornography and children and teens.  Yes, I did say children.  Because of the cultures that surround us and of course, our own home cultures, at earlier and earlier ages our children are aware of sexual nuances, sexual vocabularies, adulterous behavior and sex before marriage.  They see it and hear it even though most of us try to protect our children’s innocence.

Sometimes I fear that, as Americans, we get caught up in “rights” issues—the rights to privacy, speech, assembly and religion—especially as we live in countries where there are very few “rights” guaranteed to the people.  However, children have a right to safe and secure homes, with plenty to eat and all their needs supplied.  The writer of Proverbs 13:24 implies that the parent who does not discipline his/her child, shows a lack of love for the child.  As followers of the Word trying to insure a safe and secure home for our child, the right to internet privacy by a child or teen has absolutely no place in today’s world.

Filters and accountability programs are free or relatively low-cost, depending on the age of your children and the needs of your family.  With my computer hooked up to a phone line in my country, I downloaded a free filter from safefamilies: http://www.safefamilies.org/SoftwareTools.php.  I live in a place where large files are nearly impossible to download, and I was able to do this easily and quickly at home.  Now I think my grandchildren and I myself are both protected if we are online using this computer.

I urge you to download an internet filter today and begin to protect your children from those pop-up images that are startling and offensive.  Remember that all children are curious and may be drawn by the image to go someplace they had no idea existed.  Here are some suggestions—contributed by a friend.

Breaking Free Blog…lots of good insights here

Internet filters:  http://www.safefamilies.org/SoftwareTools.php

And Robert’s family uses: http://www.internet-filters.net/netnanny.html

In part 2, we will continue to look at our children and pornography.  I’d like to share this quote from Dag Hammarskjold.  Contemplate it as you think about your family:

You cannot play with the animal in you without becoming wholly animal, play with falsehood without forfeiting your right to truth, play with cruelty without losing your sensitivity of mind.  He who wants to keep his garden tidy doesn’t deserve a plot for weeds.


See also: https://theeducationcafe.wordpress.com/2013/01/18/kids-teens-and-the-internet-reducing-the-dangers/


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