1. “When…Then.” “When you take your dishes to the sink, then you may go play.” Say that instead of: “No, you may not play until you take your dishes to the sink.” And don’t say, “Yes, you may play when you take your dishes to the sink.” With this last one, the only thing they hear is “Yes.”
2. “Let me pray about it.” OR “Let me talk to mom (dad). Ask me again in 30 minutes (or tonight), if I forget to tell you.”
3. “5, 4, 3, 2, 1…..CHOOSE!” Say this calmly and be prepared to follow it up by calmly saying: “If you complain about my choices, you lose the privilege of choosing.” Then choose for them. They will begin to see that they have 5 seconds to make a choice, or their opportunity to choose is forfeited.
Note: See the full article on this education blog for understanding strong-willed children.