A review of: Light Their Fire for God: 7 Powerful Virtues for Your Kids By Anne and David Harper
Review by Elizabeth G
This is a great book to read for any parent. It encourages many things we all know but it’s good to have it repeated. Their virtues are based on 2 Peter 1:5-7. Consider having some devotional time each week with your TCKs focusing on a different virtue each week.
These virtues are:
- 1. The power to obey what is right in God’s eyes. (moral excellence/goodness) UP
- 2. The power to gain spiritual insight from God’s word. (knowledge) UP
- 3. The power to control the flesh so that the Spirit reigns. (self-control) IN
- 4. The power to rejoice through tribulation (perseverance) IN
- 5. The power to please Him in all things (godliness) IN
- 6. The power to accept and forgive (brotherly kindness) OUT
- 7. The power to serve God & others (love) OUT
He devotes a chapter to each virtue. Here are some of the highlights that I gleaned from some of them. He says our kids need to first look UP (towards God), then IN (at ourselves) and then OUT (towards others).
Self-control: we don’t’ have to “muster” up self-control. It is a result of being focused on the Spirit. The love of Christ control us as we set our mind on Him (2 Cor. 5:14)
The flesh will always have opportunities to sin; we must create opportunities for the Spirit.
Sin is crouching at the door (Gen. 4:5-7)
Their weapons are: Bible (Ps. 119:11), Prayer (Matt. 26: 38, 40-41) and Faith (1 Tim. 6:12).
Perseverance: “remaining behind, patiently enduring”. Remember Joseph (Gen. 45 & 50)–In life there are two guarantees: 1) life is hard, 2) God is sufficient. Memorize James 1:2-4, 12.
Godliness: Worship is the magnifying glass that ignites the power of God in our lives. Worship involves everything we say, think or do. Sacrifice reveals our deep down attitudes and motives for doing everything. When you learn to sacrifice your own desires and love, worship and obey God, you will learn that intimacy with God is more important than anything else. (1Tim. 4:7-8)
Brotherly kindness: (Rom. 12:10). 1. Acceptance of others–not tolerance of their beliefs or taking them as your own. 2. Availability – to God first, then family and He will show you the rest. 3. Accountability – find someone you can trust completely to encourage you and pray with you.
Love: (John 13:34-35) phileo love – comes from a pure soul (mind, will, emotions). Agape love – comes from a pure heart (inner spirit controlled by the Holy Spirit). When we have both of these loves we will want to know Jesus and make Him known. Rev. 2:3-5.